The delicate balance between happiness & reality

Studying abroad is often depicted as a dream come true. The excitement of exploring a new country, making international friends, and experiencing new cultures is enough to fuel endless Instagram posts and TikTok videos. However, beneath all of that, there lies a reality that might be a little difficult sometimes – and that’s ok.

In the midst of trying to achieve personal growth, academic success, and social connections, it’s easy to forget the importance of mental well-being.

As someone who’s walked this path, I can tell you that studying abroad is a rollercoaster of emotions, ups downs, lefts & rights. But understanding this balance between happiness and reality can help you navigate this experience with more resilience and self-compassion. Here’s how.

1. homesickness is real: embrace It, don’t dismiss it

It’s important to know that homesickness is normal. Rather than pushing it away or pretending it doesn’t exist, accept it as part of the process. It’s okay to miss home, your friends, and your family. You can still be excited about your adventure while also feeling this tug on your heartstrings. Acknowledging these emotions can help you manage them better.

2. the social media trap

In reality, no one’s life is flawless—especially when studying abroad. Not every day will be filled with laughter, parties, or breathtaking views. You’ll have moments of

frustration, confusion, and even loneliness. These emotions are valid and part of the experience. It’s important to remember that your study abroad journey isn’t a highlight reel, but a real-life experience with ups and downs.

3. balancing academics and wellbeing

While studying abroad is an opportunity to expand your education, it can also come with unexpected academic pressure. You may find yourself struggling to adapt to different teaching styles, new academic standards, or a heavy workload. Add the stress of navigating life in a new country, and it’s easy to feel overwhelmed.

Take the time to prioritise your mental health. Set realistic academic goals and don’t be afraid to ask for help when needed. Seek out support from fellow students or school resources like counselling services or academic advisors. Remember that you’re not expected to excel in every aspect of your life all at once. Give yourself permission to be imperfect.

4. connection: quality over quantity

The pressure to make friends quickly can be immense when you’re in a new place. While some people seem to click instantly, others may take more time to bond with. The challenge lies in forming deep, meaningful connections rather than focusing on surface-level friendships just for the sake of socialising. Am I right?!

Take the time to build relationships with people who share your interests and values. Surround yourself with people who uplift you and understand your experience. At the same time, give yourself the space to recharge and not feel obligated to be social all the time.

5. highs & lows of exploration

Studying abroad offers endless opportunities for exploration. You can visit iconic landmarks, explore bustling cities, or immerse yourself in local traditions. Yet, the reality of constant exploration can be tiring. Travel fatigue is real, and not every adventure will be as awe-inspiring as the pictures suggest.

Find balance in your exploration. Yes, it’s exciting to see new places, but it’s also important to take time to relax and settle in.

6. The power of self-reflection

Amidst all the excitement and challenges, take time to reflect on your personal growth. Studying abroad is an opportunity to learn not only about a new culture but also about yourself. You’ll discover strengths you didn’t know you had, develop new coping skills, and learn how to navigate unfamiliar situations.

7. The importance of self-compassion

Finally, and perhaps most importantly, be kind to yourself. There will be days when things don’t go as planned. You might miss a class, get lost in the city, or struggle to communicate the local language. It’s all part of the journey.

Treat yourself with the same compassion you would offer a friend. Be patient, forgiving, and understanding with yourself. Studying abroad isn’t about perfection; it’s about learning, growing, and adapting. Embrace the journey, the bumps, the side steps and try to ride that wave.